ASK THE CAREGIVING COACH
September 27, 2010
I received several responses to the topic “Asking for Help”. The issue continues to be at the top of any caregiver’s issues. Here are three responses/questions that I thought demonstrated what is on your collective minds.
Question: I could really relate to Lorna who was frustrated because medication was forgotten in her absence. Do you think a big chart listing medication times is a good idea? Tisha
Caregiver Coach: Absolutely a terrific idea. I would add that in addition to a large chart that color and pictures be added for extra emphasis and clear communication. When colors and pictures are added to words, the retention of a communication/message more than doubles.
Question: I answered your poll on “Why is Asking For Help So Difficult” and was surprised that I will more often ask for friend’s help rather than family. Why is that? Bertie
Caregiver Coach: Go back and look at what tasks/issues you more often ask for a friend’s help. For me, I found that I asked friends more often to help with errands, specific tasks around the house, etc. However, when larger issues like seeing a new doctor, changing medication, or moving to a different care facility, I depended on my family’s opinions and input.
Question: The reasons listed in the survey gave me food for thought. Reviewing what prevents me from asking for help and what encourages me to ask for help were useful. How can I use these lists going forward? Kathleen
Caregiver Coach: Post them somewhere (maybe the refrigerator) to remind you about asking for help. Color code each list (red for what prevents you from asking for help and green for what encourages you to ask for help). If you use a journal, make notes on how you feel what you ask for help and when you don’t.
Margery Pabst is a nationally acclaimed author, speaker, and facilitator. Her fourth book, “Enrich Your Caregiving Journey”, explores how successful caregivers take care of themselves while caring for others. EYCJ won the “2010 Caregiver Friendly Award” given by Today’s Caregiver Magazine. Communicate with Margery via this feature or to learn more about her work, go to www.pivotalcrossings.com